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Remembering Dharmakara
« on: December 24, 2019, 04:05:18 am »
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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #1 on: December 25, 2019, 08:24:10 am »
He is often in my thoughts as well.

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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #2 on: December 25, 2019, 02:28:05 pm »
Tadyatha om gate gate paragate parasamgate bodhi svaha

om mani padme hum
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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #3 on: April 30, 2020, 09:18:24 pm »
DK provided many years of service to Free Sangha, contributing his experience, knowledge and devotion to The Buddhist Practice.  He was my friend.  We worked together for many years in an effort to develop and maintain understanding, penetration and exercise of the teachings and traditions of Buddhism.

May his flame burn with the wisdom he obtained and shared so charitably. 

DK, my friend is remembered with fondness. :namaste:
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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #4 on: May 03, 2020, 03:33:29 am »
Didn't he get AIDS from Ösel Tendzin who was Chogyam Trungpa's regent?


 So very sad. 


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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #5 on: May 03, 2020, 07:02:50 am »
Didn't he get AIDS from Ösel Tendzin who was Chogyam Trungpa's regent?

Yes, that's what they say.  DK had sex wth the regent (consensual?) . the regent had aids.  DK got aids.

There may be more to the story, but we'll never know.

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So very sad. 

Very sad.

Meez tried to find out the circumstances of his death, but couldn't find any.

Very sad.


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« Reply #6 on: May 08, 2020, 07:09:58 pm »
Judging by how intolerant DK was of what I call "Holocaust deniers" in Buddhism, which is to say, people who deny the existence of the problem of sexual abuse and abuse of power, authority and trust on the part of teachers, I would not hesitate to say, that DK was the victim of abuse, i.e. non-consensual sex, in the Shambhala cult. He did once tell me he experienced sexual abuse in a TB group, but didn't say which one.

I only bring this up, because we're here to remember DK, and he certainly wouldn't want his, or anyone's, abuse whitewashed, by implying that the activity was consensual. He wouldn't stand for it. He didn't allow that sort of thing on his own Buddhist forum. So in honor of DK, I'm setting the record straight.

I can only hope, that DK has found peace and well-being, hopefully somewhere in the vicinity of Tushita Heaven.

Thank you to the OP for creating this thread. I do think of DK, and mention him in internet discussions elsewhere, on issues in TB. It's heartening to see here, that he hasn't been forgotten.


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« Reply #7 on: May 09, 2020, 08:44:24 am »
Judging by how intolerant DK was of what I call "Holocaust deniers" in Buddhism, which is to say, people who deny the existence of the problem of sexual abuse and abuse of power, authority and trust on the part of teachers, I would not hesitate to say, that DK was the victim of abuse, i.e. non-consensual sex, in the Shambhala cult. He did once tell me he experienced sexual abuse in a TB group, but didn't say which one.

Hey Sonam!!

That DK had sex with Thomas Rich (aka Osal Tendzin),  Chogyman Trungpa's Regent, who was AIDS - positive and transmitted it to DK is no big secret.  That the Regent was Bi and also had a predilection for seducing men, both gay and straight, is also no big secret. 

Whether or not the relationship was consensual is a question that is more difficult to ascertain.  We have only DKs word for it, and he was notoriously evasive when addressing this.  It's even difficult to get any sort of info from people who were in Vajradhtu at that time.  I know a number of people who were students of the Regent in Boulder.  None of them recall John Boda (DKs real name), so that makes establishing a history of the relationship difficult.  IOW, I don't have any evidence to support either assertion - consent or disent.

Abuse doesn't need consent or disent.  Using power, importance, prestige or even devotion to entice, seduce, or cajole another person into a sexual act, is inherently abusive.  However there are levels of abuse.  There's a difference between a seduction and having bodyguards hold someone down.  Trungpa once had bodyguards forcibly and publicly disrobe a student - the poet William Merwin at a party.  This was abuse of a sexual nature although no sex act was committed.

Regardless, it's safe to say that DK had some very ill feelings about the Regent and what happened.  His attitude might be best summed up un his own words, taken from an op-ed he wrote for Buddhist Channel: "Let my abuser be my best teacher, a true statement, for I am not a victim of Osel Tendzin, but a surviver of him".

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I only bring this up, because we're here to remember DK, and he certainly wouldn't want his, or anyone's, abuse whitewashed, by implying that the activity was consensual. He wouldn't stand for it. He didn't allow that sort of thing on his own Buddhist forum. So in honor of DK, I'm setting the record straight.

I'm not sure what record needs straightening.  It's quite clear what happened to DK and that he feels that he was abused.  We know this and that he seemed to blame Tibetan Buddhism in general for that abuse, not just the actual abuser. 

So be it.

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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #8 on: May 12, 2020, 05:39:48 pm »
Thank you for taking the time, thought, and effort to respond. It seems you've done your homework. While informative, your post makes me sad to read, but ... such is life. And death. Perhaps DK will be back among us, sooner than we might imagine.

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Re: Remembering Dharmakara
« Reply #9 on: May 13, 2020, 02:37:30 pm »
Om Mani Padme Hung
Om Gate Gate Paragate Parasamgate Bodhi Svaha
May all sentient beings be happy.

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