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Offline EllieZel

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Isolated and Lonely
« on: May 14, 2016, 06:34:53 pm »
I know this isn't directly Buddhism-related, but one of the reasons I joined this forum is because I'm feeling pretty alone in my real life and I wanted to find a community of people with whom I had something in common.

My fiance is in another country, my parents and sister in yet another country, and all the rest of my extended family is back in my home state, 2 days' drive from here. I'm a non-native living in a tiny town on a reservation, having trouble making friends. Most articles I read about making friends as an adult tell me to start volunteering - which I would love to do - but it seems the only volunteer opportunities in this town are through one of the Christian churches or the tribe, neither of which include me.

I'm not sure if there's a real question here or if I'm just venting, but I guess if anyone would like to talk sometime... I'm definitely here.

Offline Dianet

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Re: Isolated and Lonely
« Reply #1 on: May 15, 2016, 06:07:06 am »
EllieZel,

My wish for you would be that you might discover the true joys of solitude. There are many. If you are used to being in the midst of familiar people, it can be disconcerting at first, but just like each kind of weather has something to recommend it, and not all tastes are the same, you can learn to appreciate the flavor of solitude; the time to study and meditate and get to know yourself.

I hope you can appreciate this time while you have it and not look back wistfully at some frenzied, crowded, busy future day and realize the opportunity you missed.

Just my 2 cents worth,
Namaste,
Diane 

Offline Spiny Norman

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Re: Isolated and Lonely
« Reply #2 on: May 17, 2016, 05:07:44 am »
I know this isn't directly Buddhism-related, but one of the reasons I joined this forum is because I'm feeling pretty alone in my real life
My fiance is in another country, my parents and sister in yet another country, and all the rest of my extended family is back in my home state, 2 days' drive from here. I'm a non-native living in a tiny town on a reservation, having trouble making friends. Most articles I read about making friends as an adult tell me to start volunteering - which I would love to do - but it seems the only volunteer opportunities in this town are through one of the Christian churches or the tribe, neither of which include me.

Yes, it can be tough.  Do you intend to stay where you are long-term?  One option is to think of activities which you enjoy or would like to try, and see if there are any local clubs or groups.  Think creatively and you might find something.

 


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