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Offline Boxer

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Need Advice -- Unsure Where to Begin
« on: October 14, 2015, 12:12:04 am »
Hi everyone,

Just registered.  Briefly, I'm mid-30s Canadian, but have been living in the same mid-sized city in central Thailand for several years.  Fell in love here, we lived together for 3.5 years, split up, and I just ended up staying here with my dogs.  Naturally, there's dozens of Buddhist temples all around where I live, and there's actually one right beside my house.  I unfortunately haven't gotten involved in Buddhism much during my time here, although would like that to change.  I speak, read and write enough Thai to get around and take care of myself without problem, but I'm not fluent although working on it.  I don't know any Pali.

Uncertain if I should mention this aspect, but I believe in being upfront and honest with everyone I meet, so I should say I am a recovering alcoholic.  I think I have sobriety down pat for now at least, but this is one of the motivators for me to delve into Buddhism.  I want to strengthen my heart and soul to ensure I permanently beat this addiction for the rest of my natural life, and I believe Buddhism can help with that.  I've always considered myself a fairly spiritual individual, and this latest bout of sobriety seems to have awakened that part in me again.

The other main motivator is I do want to help those less fortunate, and I could be wrong, but I believe through the temples would be a good starting point to find deserving people and ways to help.  I work from home, am thankfully quite good at what I do, so I do make more money than I need to live comfortably, and would like to help give back, but obviously, only to those who are actually deserving.

Anyway, my issue is I'm a fairly down to earth and shy individual, and I'm a little uncertain how to go about this.  Obviously, all the temples are open to the public, and everyone is allowed to wander through them as they wish.  I've done that, but that's about as far as I've gotten.  I don't know, do I just walk up to a senior monk and say I want to learn about Buddhism and also help the community, or what do I do?  Is there any certain way I should go about this to get started, or anything I should buy / bring, or?

Thanks in advance for any advice!

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Re: Need Advice -- Unsure Where to Begin
« Reply #1 on: October 15, 2015, 06:22:23 am »
Hi Boxer and welcome to FreeSangha.

Yes, I would say that you should just walk up to a senior monk and say I want to learn about Buddhism, as well as assist or help the community in some way or another.

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Re: Need Advice -- Unsure Where to Begin
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2016, 11:44:47 pm »
Please read the below DHAMMA PAGE. you can download the PDF. this is a living enlighted monk in Sri lanka.


www.mahanuwara-wajirabuddhi-thero.org/EN

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Re: Need Advice -- Unsure Where to Begin
« Reply #3 on: June 06, 2016, 12:57:10 am »
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The other main motivator is I do want to help those less fortunate, and I could be wrong, but I believe through the temples would be a good starting point to find deserving people and ways to help.  I work from home, am thankfully quite good at what I do, so I do make more money than I need to live comfortably, and would like to help give back, but obviously, only to those who are actually deserving.


Buddha was very clear that we do not withhold assistance based only upon whether or not a person is deserving.  Suggest you review the following regarding Dana:

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/various/wheel367.html

What Makes an Elder? :
A head of gray hairs doesn't mean one's an elder. Advanced in years, one's called an old fool.
But one in whom there is truth, restraint, rectitude, gentleness,self-control, he's called an elder, his impurities disgorged, enlightened.
-Dhammpada, 19, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu.

 


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