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Declutter your life?
« on: December 26, 2014, 11:56:38 am »
Our house is full of stuff that I rarely use. My phone is full of apps that I rarely use. My Netflix list is full of movies and series I'd like to watch (but rarely do because I can't decide which one to watch). My shelves are filled with books, many of which I just want to read once before I take it to the charity shop. My calendar and days are full of dos and don'ts, shoulds woulds and coulds.

I constantly lose track of my life goals and what's important in life. I've decided to try to declutter and simplify my life but it seems like an arduous task. Does anyone here have experience from decluttering? Did it help? Any tips or suggestions? :)
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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #1 on: December 26, 2014, 02:52:08 pm »
1. Dont buy anything else
2. Sell the stuff you dont use (ebay?)
3. Spend more time meditating
4. Take one day ( or moment) at a time....( mindfulness)

Rome wasnt built in a day, but you will find that if you keep working at it, things will get better

Thats what I am doing, and it has helped.
I hope these suggestions help you.

May you be peaceful and happy and free from suffering

The non-doing of any evil,
the performance of what's skillful,
the cleansing of one's own mind:
this is the teaching of the Awakened.

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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #2 on: December 26, 2014, 03:15:57 pm »
Rome wasnt built in a day, but you will find that if you keep working at it, things will get better

Rome wasn't built in a day, but it burned in one  :wink1:

My advice would be to follow the same course of action that one would use when dealing with one's own children when this occurs.

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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2014, 04:06:03 am »
1. Dont buy anything else
2. Sell the stuff you dont use (ebay?)
3. Spend more time meditating
4. Take one day ( or moment) at a time....( mindfulness)

Rome wasnt built in a day, but you will find that if you keep working at it, things will get better

Thats what I am doing, and it has helped.
I hope these suggestions help you.

May you be peaceful and happy and free from suffering
I'll try. It's hard to not buy anything, but I'm pretty restrictive about what I buy, except when it comes to books.  :sweat: I'm a bit too impatient when it comes to selling stuff. You have to photograph the thing, write some kind of summary about it, deal with questions from potential buyers, and either agree on a time to meet and be sure to have change in case they don't have even money or package the stuff and take it to the post office. Usually it feels like the time and effort spent is more worth than the actual money I make of it, so I usually just give stuff away to save time and effort.

I'd like to spend more time meditating but there isn't any room. I converted the garage to a home office and had my little altar and spot of serenity there, where I meditated each morning and whenever it felt right. Alas, the room was needed for other things and now my zafu if being kicked around in the living room and if the house ever is quiet and I try to sit, the cat is jumping all over me or I get a dog snout in my face.  :)

I'll try. This too shall pass.  :namaste:

My advice would be to follow the same course of action that one would use when dealing with one's own children when this occurs.

You mean pleading with them to throw something away, which they can't bring themselves to so you wait a couple of years until they're wiser?  :teehee:
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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2014, 04:27:11 am »
You mean pleading with them to throw something away, which they can't bring themselves to so you wait a couple of years until they're wiser?  :teehee:


No, you allow them a few items and take everything else away --- clutter is a learned trait, just like decluttering --- in other words, meditation declutters the mind, but afterwards the pile of junk that's in the corner is still there waiting for your attention LOL

Also keep in mind that there's a thin line between clutter and hoarding, where one can lead to the other or something even worse --- this segment is kind of funny:




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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2014, 10:50:07 am »
I constantly lose track of my life goals and what's important in life. I've decided to try to declutter and simplify my life but it seems like an arduous task. Does anyone here have experience from decluttering? Did it help? Any tips or suggestions? :)

In terms of thinning out material possessions what might help is having a "half-way house", like an attic, shed or garage.  You can put stuff there that you are thinking of getting rid of, but are not sure about.  If you haven't used it after six months or so then probably it can be got rid of, maybe ask some friends round to see what they want or offer it to a charity shop.

In terms of thinning out activities, how about making a list of the things you do and then putting in order of priority?  That might help to sort out the most important things, maybe drop a couple of things off the bottom of the list.  Also if you're just feeling too busy, try to build in some time to just do nothing.

How is your police training going?
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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #6 on: December 28, 2014, 09:45:05 am »
No, you allow them a few items and take everything else away --- clutter is a learned trait, just like decluttering --- in other words, meditation declutters the mind, but afterwards the pile of junk that's in the corner is still there waiting for your attention LOL

I tried a system like that once. If the kids didn't have their room cleaned on Saturday, I would gather up all their stuff, that weren't in its' place, in large garbage bags and brought it out to my home office. Then every Sunday, they could pick three things each from there, if they had been nice during the week. This led to the following:

1. I had to clean the kids' room every week.
2. I could hardly move around in my home office because of all the garbage bags.
3. I had to spend about half an hour every Sunday, "guarding" the kids while they rummaged through all the stuff they had forgotten that they even had. Oh, they loved those treasure hunts, but I didn't and it was obvious that I had drawn the shortest straw so I scratched their "punishment" and they were very disappointed.  :lmfao:

In terms of thinning out material possessions what might help is having a "half-way house", like an attic, shed or garage.  You can put stuff there that you are thinking of getting rid of, but are not sure about.  If you haven't used it after six months or so then probably it can be got rid of, maybe ask some friends round to see what they want or offer it to a charity shop.

In terms of thinning out activities, how about making a list of the things you do and then putting in order of priority?  That might help to sort out the most important things, maybe drop a couple of things off the bottom of the list.  Also if you're just feeling too busy, try to build in some time to just do nothing.

How is your police training going?
One of my main problems really is that my wife vetoes many of my decisions to get rid of stuff. Like yesterday, I wanted to throw away a bunch of Pokemon cards that are only lying around the floor and no one actually uses them for anything. However, my wife felt that they might come in use (probably by our grandchildren in 10-15 years) or that they could become valuable. I said that they would definitely not become valuable as they are scratched and scuffed but she just told me to not argue and put them in the wardrobe.  :brick: Okidoke. Happy wife, happy life. I put them in the wardrobe.

I could probably cut some activities, but they're of the kind that makes you an "upstanding citizen". You know, selling hot dogs at the soccer games, kindergarten bake sales, money drives for school field trips and so on. With three kids under 18, there are a lot of things needing to be sold, all the time, to enable their school and club activities. I wouldn't be very popular if I started cutting those out of my schedule.

Training is going fine. I'm enjoying my job. I spent a few months driving a squad car and now I'm a desk jockey, mostly interviewing drunk drivers, speeders and people that have contested their fines. Both field work and office work has their interesting points and I'm learning a lot about people, society and myself. :-bd
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I cannot escape the consequences of my actions.
My actions are the ground on which I stand.
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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #7 on: December 28, 2014, 07:55:23 pm »
Hi, Wonky Badger!

Nothing feels as good as a decluttered home! 

When I inherited my grand-aunt's appartment, the amount of clutter was overwhelming. I simply did not know where to begin.   :bigtears: 

The simplest thing to do -and eventually the one that worked- was simply tackling a room at a time. Once I set myself to the task, there was no stopping me until the whole flat was done.  It took me five days tops.

Another important thing is not to allow for clutter to build up back again. Immediately get rid of anything you know you won't use again.
Newspapers and magazines are the first to go.

The Zen feeling is simply extraordinary. :fu:

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Re: Declutter your life?
« Reply #8 on: January 16, 2015, 10:56:23 am »
I'm the opposite, my lifestyle is very minimal (in a way, rigid) and it's informed by my personal philosophy. It definitely helps me maintain a certain frame of mind (and less attachments to deal with).
Nirvana is true peace.

 


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