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Offline jmilco

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Practising Acceptance of Others' Lifestyles
« on: January 19, 2016, 11:40:40 pm »
Hello everyone,

I wondered if anyone could offer some advice into practising the acceptance of other people's lifestyles - especially loved ones.

Specific to me, my girlfriend (not wife, actually!) likes to stay up very late. In fact, when I wake up she is still awake most days and has not slept yet. As well as causing some problems within our relationship, I also worry for her health a lot. I think sleep is hugely important and regularly staying up all night can't be good.

I want to be accepting of her lifestyle, but when her health and well-being come into play it becomes difficult. Any advice on how I should handle the situation?

Offline a-skier-bows-to-the-dharm

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Re: Practising Acceptance of Others' Lifestyles
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2016, 06:42:34 pm »
I have observed that some people are simply night owls. Most likely, they will be that way their whole lives.
Beyond that, one of my teachers said something along this line: "If a tree is crooked or a dog is black, you don't blame it because you don't like that, so why do you blame people?"
How much control do we really have over what we do? When I can stop being neurotic about making phone calls, then maybe my beloved can stop being neurotic about not finishing things. In the mean time, I love him and want him to be happy and playful.
I guess you could say that although Buddhists believe that change is possible by looking at your thoughts in meditation and letting go of them without judgement, we also recognize that change may not be what you expect.

 


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