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Offline heybai

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A Suggestion
« on: January 06, 2010, 11:38:39 pm »
Just one man's view: I was going to respond to the thread on the banning of a troublesome member, and suggest it not be locked.  In my view there is entirely too much earnestness on Buddha-boards.  Right speech is right speech, and we all ought to heed common sense when addressing others -- i.e., with respect, in an appropriate and measured tone, and so on, but it can be a little too -- what? --  somber? Is that the right word?

I left the  B-C forum before it (apparently) became overwhelmed and under-moderated, and arrived at FS after this person was banned, but I thought Ron's (I think it was Ron's) parody was funny, and not at all mean-spirited.  If I were the banned member and read that take on my discourse, I would like to think I'd have a laugh at myself.  And if I didn't get the joke, I might at least be moved to reconsider my approach. 

So: I agree, let's lighten up (whoever posted that, I don't recall your name, sorry).  If things start getting heated or nasty, then by all means moderate, counsel, close threads -- whatever seems the best way to go.

We are all learning as we go, so this is meant as a gentle suggestion, not really a pointed criticism.  Please take it as such.
 

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Re: A Suggestion
« Reply #1 on: January 07, 2010, 01:13:26 am »
 :bow:

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Re: A Suggestion
« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2010, 01:17:57 am »
 :namaste:

Offline Ron-the-Elder

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Re: A Suggestion
« Reply #3 on: January 07, 2010, 07:04:16 am »
:bow:

ditto  :bow:

P.S.:  I tried to get my lips to move out of sinc. to remain true to the genre, but wasn't skilled enough to post on You-Tube.  ( One of the problems with being born in mid 1944 )
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A head of gray hairs doesn't mean one's an elder. Advanced in years, one's called an old fool.
But one in whom there is truth, restraint, rectitude, gentleness,self-control, he's called an elder, his impurities disgorged, enlightened.
-Dhammpada, 19, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu.

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Re: A Suggestion
« Reply #4 on: January 07, 2010, 05:18:16 pm »
Thanks, Heybai. It truly is a complicated topic. My own reaction is to laugh and make jokes, because that eases my tension. But inevitably my personal need for humor can cause discomfort for others. Some people are so sick and tired of the whole thing, that each new comment rings like fingers on a chalk board. And this is the complication of living in community...

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Re: A Suggestion
« Reply #5 on: January 07, 2010, 05:29:04 pm »
So: I agree, let's lighten up (whoever posted that, I don't recall your name, sorry).

 :curtain: that was me.

If things start getting heated or nasty, then by all means moderate, counsel, close threads -- whatever seems the best way to go.

We are all learning as we go, so this is meant as a gentle suggestion, not really a pointed criticism.  Please take it as such.

I want more members like you.   :headbow:

I closed the thread because it seemed to be an issue to some members.  It was more out of courtesy than any real threat to "keeping the peace" or moderation.  No one has complained since... seemed the fastest method to prevent any spreading of discontent at the time.
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