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How to keep harmony in families or between spouses?
« on: July 14, 2015, 08:04:39 pm »
Q:  In the society of now, many star spouses appear united outwardly but divided at heart. Loving and happy at beginning, but they became enemies at last. Many people declare that they can’t trust true love any more. So, please tell us how to treat with these impermanent things? Are there any methods to keep harmony with families or spouses?

Khenpo Tamgrin Rinpoche  advise :  No matter lovers or enemies are all impermanent. Today’s lovers maybe become enemies tomorrow; while the enemies now maybe change into lovers in the near future. Things are always changing. It is hard to master them. Nevertheless, you needn’t make a fuss, because the nature of all things is in such way.

If the conjugal loving ones want to have a good end marriage not to become enemies, that’s very easy. Treat each other well when you get together, don’t cling to each other when you separate. Togetherness and separateness are both according to the causes’ meeting and parting. So-called ‘ look the flowers blooming and fading before the courtyard, gaze the clouds gathering and spreading in the sky’, if you face the relationship with this kind of attitude, unmoved either by gain or loss, undisturbed either by favour or disgrace, you feel completely at ease.

Why two partners need to be together? For happiness. If you want this happiness last for a longer time, you need to endure each other. However, enduring isn’t restraining, it means accepting shortcomings of the other party; concession isn’t random, it means giving a free space to your partner.

Our lifetimes are so transient, soon it will be finish. You should cherish the lucky and destiny, and feel free of them. In general, you can’t lack of wisdom in any situation including facing with spouses’ meeting and parting. That is the same principle for either star spouses or normal spouses.


 


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